Does this belong in the home I’m creating now?

Good things can still stop being right

Even beautiful pieces of furniture or home decor can belong to a version of your home — and perhaps a version of you — that you're moving away from.

And that can be surprisingly hard to see when you're standing in the middle of your own home.

Because if something isn't broken, ugly or useless, it can feel like you don't have a good enough reason to let it go.

But “it doesn't belong here anymore” can be reason enough.

We’re very good at finding reasons to keep things

I think most of us have become remarkably good at justifying the things we already own.

It's perfectly good.

It was expensive.

I've had it forever.

I might need it one day.

Someone gave it to me.

And all of those things can be true.

But none of them answer the question:

Do I actually want this in the home I'm creating now?

Sometimes we hold onto things because letting them go feels wasteful.

Sometimes it's habit.

And sometimes it's because admitting that something no longer suits us can feel uncomfortable.

If we chose it once, we can feel as though changing our minds means we made the wrong choice.

But I don't think that's true.

You’re allowed to change your mind

Your taste changes.

Your circumstances change.

Your priorities change.

The way you use your home changes.

And you change.

The things that mattered to you ten years ago might not matter in quite the same way now.

The furniture that worked brilliantly in one home might not make sense in the home you're living in now.

And something you once loved might simply feel a little… not you anymore.

That doesn't make the original choice wrong.

It was right for you then. It just might not be right for you now.

Your home doesn't have to be a museum of every version of you

I don't want my home to tell the story of every person I've ever been.

I want it to feel connected to my life now.

That doesn't mean erasing everything that came before.

There are things I've had for years that I still love. Things that have history and meaning. Things that might not be “on trend” but are completely me.

Those things stay.

But I don't think I need to keep something simply because it represents a previous version of myself.

My home is allowed to evolve. And so am I.

Before you decide what to replace

This is why I think it's so easy to jump too quickly into the buying part of changing a home.

We see something we don't like and immediately start looking for its replacement.

New sofa. New chairs. New artwork. New everything.

But before I decide what to replace, I need to know what I want to keep.

And before I buy anything new, I need to create some space.

Because sometimes, when you take a closer look, you realise the thing you've been blaming isn't actually the problem.

The chair might be perfectly fine.

The artwork might be lovely.

The cushions might still work.

Perhaps the room around them has changed.

Perhaps they would work somewhere else.

Or perhaps it really is time for them to go.

You don't know until you get curious about what's actually bothering you.

Try this in your own home

Pick one piece of furniture that's been bothering you.

Don't immediately put it on Marketplace. 😂

Ask yourself:

Do I love it?

Is it working for me?

Does it support the way I live now?

Does it feel like me?

And if I were furnishing this room today, would I choose it again?

You might decide it stays.

You might decide it goes.

Or you might discover that the problem was never the furniture itself — it was what was around it.

That's the value of getting clear before you start changing things.

Because sometimes creating a home you love isn't about finding more things.

It's about deciding what still belongs.

And creating a home that feels like your life now.